Are you crazy?
Yes. Absolutely. We are well aware.
We believe that foster care and adoption are some of the greatest depictions of the Lord’s love for us: without doing anything to earn His love, God chose us as members of His family. Through Christ’s sacrifice on the cross, we–undeserving, unworthy, sinful, lost without Him–have been adopted as sons and daughters in His kingdom. Because of that, we fully believe that Christians should be a people marked by their love for the fatherless.
James 1:27 says, “Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.” We want to make exceedingly clear that we don’t interpret this verse as every single Christian must adopt or foster–but we do believe that we are all called to care for orphans.
For us, we feel an undeniable call to welcome little human beings into our home–for however long they need to be in our home. Morgan and I both have a huge heart for kids, and, while we still sometimes feel like children ourselves, we’re confident that God wouldn’t place this on our hearts for no reason. We live in a county that is sadly known for child abuse, drug use, and just an overall darkness, but we don’t believe it has to stay that way.
In addition to sharing the good news of who Jesus is with these kids, we are equally as ready to try and build relationships with biological families. For a lot of these moms and dads, they’ve landed in horrible circumstances, and we want to be support for them as they turn their life around.
I wish foster care on no one. Nothing about this system is ideal for the child, but we believe in reunification with biological parents when reunification is safe and healthy. We want to be a part of redeemed families. Ultimately, our prayer is that God’s grace and His glory is proclaimed through our weakness. And that, through welcoming these kids into our home, the Lord and His love would take on new meaning.
How are you feeling?
Inadequate, terrified, anxious, grateful, and excited.
I don’t love using the word “excited,” because a child being placed in our home means that a child is taken out of all they know. There is nothing exciting about that. But we are excited to be a part of the life of these little souls–if only for a few weeks. We are excited to make their time with us a time that they can look back on and think, “I understand what love is and who God is a little better because of those people.”
What will that look like with jobs and stuff?
Nothing will change with our jobs. We’re blessed to be going through a county that provides day care. It will drastically change our lives and the way we use our time, but it’s worth it.
How are you ever going to be able to say goodbye to these kids?
We have absolutely no clue, but we do know that we’d never, ever want our fear of saying goodbye to keep us from being foster parents. As many of you know, I’m a hot mess when it comes to emotions, and that was one of the first questions Morgan asked me when we started praying about fostering. What I said then, I meant–my heartache from a goodbye is worth every second of giving these kids a safe place to live while they are with us. We will pour our hearts into these kids while they are home with us, and we will mourn when they leave, but we are advocates for safe and good reunification.
Where are you in the process?
We have gone through our training and are currently in the process of filling out the seemingly mile-high stack of paperwork. We are taking it slow, and we won’t take placements until at least this fall. We are in the process of becoming foster parents, meaning we are making ourselves as open as possible to God’s divine plan. If He wants us to simply go through this process, we trust that He will teach us something through it. We’ve got three parts of a home study, background checks, and references to still get through. I want to be transparent about this whole process through the blog, so that’s why I’m introducing it early on! Look forward to lots of fostering-related posts.
Please pray alongside us–for wisdom through the process, for the biological parents, and for the souls of the sweet kids who will come into our home. We are so thankful for you all!